Not so long ago I was watching a debating-show on the telly. The moderator was a 40+ male. The panelists consisted of three 50+ males and a teenage girl. The subject: sending naked pictures (nudes) and sexting. The girl was a student that was representing the youth that they saw as the sexting generation. The three older men saw themselves as the man with all of the answers and the good advice. While the girl was stating that sending nudes is the new form of pornography, the new form of buying Playboy (perfectly normal, may I add), the men were disgusted by the phenomenon. F
urther in the discussion the leaking of nudes of young girls was mentioned. In the men’s opinions it was the fault of the girl: ‘she shouldn’t have sent the nudes’. Well, I would like to say a big fuck you to that. When a girl sends nudes, it’s because she wants to, because she feels good about herself and because she trusts the other person. When the other person decides to spread these photo’s, it’s a violation of privacy and trust. The girl is in no way at fault.
In the debate the three men and the moderator were all downplaying the girl’s opinion on national television in prime time. I’m beyond disgusted that, even in 2016, it is still the course of events. Maybe I shouldn’t be surprised. This is the world where Trump is the chosen president. I would have liked to say that in my country it isn’t that bad. But it is. People support Trump over here. Girls get groped in the club when you pass a group off men. Girls get asked what they were wearing when they got raped and go to the police to press charges, followed by a raised eyebrow. Girls get called nasty things on the streets.
But as the three men at the panel said: ‘just get a bit tougher, stop whining’. IT IS NOT THE GIRL’S FAULT. So girls, unite and fight opinionated, disgusting men like that. Don’t be afraid: write letters, press charges, talk about it and slap them if you have to. But don’t settle and except. You’re worth it to be treated right.